Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Row, row, row your boat

I know that it's been a long time since I've posted. I've started, deleted and restarted writing so many times over the last few weeks.  I feel like I have so much to say, but almost no words to say it. Or words that just seem so inadequate.  Overall, I feel a lot better. Normal, I guess. 
I have more energy. More focus. Most of the time. In some ways, I can't believe the difference. 
I often am waking up before my alarm goes off instead of literally dragging myself out of bed only when I absolutely have to, only to hand Tynan some breakfast and lay back down on the couch. Nope. I actually get up and go walking. 2-4 miles almost every day.  Then I go home and shower. Everyday. Not every 3 days or so, and at the end of the day after spending hours trying to talk myself into it.   Icky. I know but that's how it got. I just didn't care.  
I'm spending more time in prayer and the Bible, although that can always be improved. I'm enjoying spending time with other people, instead of just wanting to be left alone. 
Not to say that it's all unicorns and roses, but my down times just don't seem to come as often or last as long and it's not so all consuming.  Not only do I feel like I've rejoined life, after feeling like I was just slogging through for way too long, but I'm trying to balance everything better, and making sure that I have some "me" time. Not perfect, but steps in a healthy direction. Physically, spiritually and emotionally trying, knowing that it's not by my own strength, but by the grace and hand of God that I am able to stand on my own two feet. 
A couple months ago, a bunch of Beth Moore books were free to download on my Kindle app. Reading her stuff takes me forever, because I literally have to stop and re-read parts over and over.  And then I feel like I have to have a few days to absorb the part I got through.  Makes me feel so dumb at times. 
Anyway, there is a part where she talks about your past, your heritage is a part of you and she equates that with how you row a boat.  She points out that when rowing it's proper to be sitting with your back to where you are going, looking back at where you've been.  She says "Some of us are so focused on our past, we're not rowing to our futures. Others are trying to turn their backs on their pasts with such denial that no matter how hard they row, they can't make any progress." 
Those sentences, and their meaning have taken over so much of my mind since I read them.  I feel like I've spent so much time rowing in circles!  I  might be reading to much meaning into an extremely minor part of this book, but since I do tend to overthink most everything, might as well use that energy on something that makes me think. One thing that I have really realized about myself is how much of a battle there is between the past, the now and the future.  In part, I struggle with feeling defined as "that mom whose kid died" and letting it dictate each decision I make, or trying to pretend that it doesn't define me at all. It's in the past, right?  Yes? No? Maybe? But it is a sicnificant part of my life. 
So here's my thoughts on it: 
 As I'm "rowing" through my life, I don't know what's ahead because I have my back to it. I can glance over my shoulder and get little snippets of a clue. I can even try to plan my route, but in all of it I just have to trust that God knows the direction and has a plan.  I don't just trust, I know. His Word promises it. Good old Jeremiah 29:11!   Yet, as I'm rowing, I always have my sights set on the past. The good, the bad, the joy and the sorrow. It's all there. I see it. I don't loose sight of it, but I'm not just sitting there floating around looking at it. I don't throw an anchor out and get stuck by it. Or jump in and be sucked down by it. No. I'm still moving away from it towards the future that God has for me.  I don't know what the future will bring, but just as I choose to trust that He had a greater reason for allowing cancer into our lives, even if I don't understand or like it, I will continue to trust that He knows better then I do. I may (ok, I will) get turned around and confused at times, but I know that He will use even that.

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